When the heart is hurting sometimes the mind goes into defense mode and we hurt back. What people do is up to them, how they are handling their lives.
What you do with it is up to you.
Have you consider this:
When you allow people to change how you feel, you give them unrighteous power. How about if instead you choose to empower yourself?
Your world changes as you take back the power you gave away allowing people to decide how you feel.
Set yourself free and start finding joy in life! It is out of this world good!