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The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, Robin Sharma

One of the best books I have read in a while. It opens the mind, de-junks thoughts and helps to stay centered on the things that really matter. A great book to help get an inventory of what really matters.

It is a fable that keeps you thinking, dreaming and prioritizing. I am re-reading it for the second time. Marking it better and writing on the side margins.

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Yesterday I saw this man who was completely blind, with a good case of arthritis and older (probably early 70s) be dropped off by a building that I was walking into. The driver that dropped him off told him, “keep walking straight and you will get to the door.”
I was going in, so I grabbed his arm and helped him out. To my surprise, he was very gracious, with witty remarks and positive conversation.
As we approached the front desk, a guy that worked there, went to fetch a wheelchair and said so out loud; the blind man turned in his direction and said, “I don’t need a wheelchair, I can walk.” I told the wheelchair guy that he probably would need help in the dressing room…then it was my turn…”I need guidance, I don’t need help, I am able.”
Wow! Here is this older man with all these very visible challenges and he is making the very best out of his life! And helping people with his contagious attitude.
So, I am a very able person, without visible limitations. I am here to tell you…I am facing my day a little better and a little taller today.
“I am able,” and with the Lord I can do anything that needs to be done!
Goodbye mental limitations that are self-imposed and hello positive attitude!

I love when God sends little love notes from heaven to remind me where I am and where I am headed. So excited to be reminded that life can and should be great! I am definitely changing the way I look at things today.

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I just read an excellent book “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” by Robin Sharma. Can I say “Wow!”?

What a treasure that book is. Lots of good food for thought. I like books that make me think and ask questions.

“Never regret your past. Rather embrace it as the teacher that it is.”

“He started to cherish life and to see the divinity in every aspect of it.”

“Just like this cup, you seem to be full of your own ideas. And how can anymore go in…until you first empty your cup?”

“Worry drains the mind of much of its power and, sooner or later, it injures the soul.”

“The laws of nature always ensure that when one door closes another opens.”

“First of all, begin to live out of the glory of your imagination, not your memory.”

“Everything is always created twice, first in the mind and then in reality.”

“You must spend sometime every day, even if it is just a few minutes in the practice of creative envisioning. See yourself as you want to be.”

“It doesn’t matter what other people say about you. What is important is what you say to yourself.”

“Cultivate your mind – it will blossom beyond your expectations.”

“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your thoughts.”

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At the age of twenty-four I had what most would say was a great life. Married to a great guy, a home, two cute little girls and lots of friends.

Somehow, inside I wasn’t happy. Actually I was pretty miserable…so miserable that life wasn’t worth living. Looking back, this is the lowest of the low spots I’ve been. I was good at masking it. My husband had no clue I was depressed. I got up in the morning, got my little girls dressed and fed, eat something and laid on the couch, and together, we watched countless hours of TV. About the time I knew Kurt would be getting home, I would get up, do the essentials to keep the house running, serve dinner get the night stuff done and go to bed.  The cycle went on like this for several months.

Thank heavens for good friends! I had a friend that I spoke with on the daily basis, she knew where I was and out of concern made me an appointment with a counselor. She told me to go and if I didn’t show up, she would make another appointment and would come and pick me up.

I went on my own. After the first visit, he suggested that maybe I needed to see a psychiatrist so I could have some medication to help me get out of the depression. I told him “no,” I would do everything he told me to do to get better (medication has its place and it helps people, I just didn’t need them. I know people who medication has saved their lives in situations like this). He agreed, we started therapy.

I had to do 3 things a day every day before I did anything. I got to choose what they were.

1. Something spiritual

2. Something physical

3. Something mental

I chose to read my scriptures, do my Nordic Track and write in my journal. Some days I read only a verse of scriptures, that was all I had in me. The Nordic Track, I started at 1 minute, then 2, 3, 4…an hour…it was a long road. And the journal, many days there was only one sentence, it was ok.

The only reasons I didn’t kill myself then was because…I couldn’t find a way that it would work for sure and it wouldn’t hurt ( I don’t like pain); I didn’t want my girls to find me and…what would I tell the Lord when I saw Him?

Having been there and felt that bad about life, I learned a lot about myself. Going through the counseling it was a life saving procedure.

Life is going to have ups and downs, to maintain the course and keep on moving in the direction we started the journey, we have to take it with a grain of salt and do the best we can. Sure people are going to do things that hurt, make us laugh, make us cry and help us grow…it is up to each of us what will happen from it.

I’ve learned to react less and act more. What happens in my corner of the world is up to me!

Finding something to enjoy during the storm, regardless of how fierce the wind is blowing, is life saving! Even if it is only for a small moment, it helps.

People will be people, so I am going to be me. I am going to do my best and that is enough.

Forgiving is very essential. I only forgive as much as I want to be forgiven by the Lord. How much is that? Hummmm….completely. It is a lot of work, and it feels wonderful when I am done. I ask for forgiveness whenever I error.

When I see myself sliding and going down a bit, I stop and see why I am sliding, talk in my head about what is taking me down that fast, resolve whatever it is that needs resolving and start the climb up again! Down at the bottom is not a destination for me ever again!

I made the decision to live life, it is precious and time doesn’t stop for me to enjoy it longer, it also doesn’t hurry so I can hurt for less time. I just need to find joy in every step of my journey (sometimes it is easier to find it than others, nevertheless, it is always there).

Life has opposites in everything. Good and evil, dark and light, happy and sad, faith and fear, dream and nightmare…I am grateful for the opposition in everything. Why? Because when I am going through something hard, I know there is something good around the corner. When I hit bottom, I knew the only way out was up!

Bite #2: Let Go!

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Things happen as we go about living. Some are pleasant, some are plain, some are positive, some are negative, some are down right painful and some are scarring.
It is up to me to decide to let go and move forward.
Whatever anybody says to me, it might be surprisingly hurtful and I might want to own it. It is not mine to own. The pain, the judgment, the absurdity of the words spoken, the hate, the viciousness or the low self esteem…it is not mine to keep.
If it is from upbringing, change how you raise your children for their sake. There is something better out there, you just have to look for it and find it.
If you believed everyone that ever told you a mean thing, stop listening to the wrong people.
If you told yourself over and over that you are not a good person. Stop talking to yourself until you have something good to say.
If you think the world hates you…got news for you, they are too busy with their own stuff to put that much time and energy into your life.
Whatever it is that is keeping your heart in pain and sorrow, anger and frustration, revenge and judgment…let go!
Give it to God, ask Him to take it away. He will. You do have to ask Him to help you. He will not intrude, He only comes into our lives when invited. Allow Him to perform miracles in your behalf.

What is not of light, of love, of peace, of joy, of courage, of happiness, of abundance and of good, is not naturally a part of you. Give it up!

Life is too short to be miserable and too grand for us not to live up to our potential.

Look for the good and the bad has to leave. Bring in the light and the dark room becomes bright.

Holding on to bad events, not forgiving someone is “drinking poison hoping someone else dies.”

Let go and step into a brighter happier path.

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